Unlocking love: 8 relationship patterns that block you from attracting a healthy partner
Relationship therapist shared eight common relationship patterns that could be impacting your journey towards lasting and meaningful connections.
Do you feel like you're 'unlucky in love', always attracting the wrong type of person? Well, the fault may lie in your relationship patterns. Fostering healthy, fulfilling connections in the complex dance of love and relationships requires an awareness of the patterns that guide our interactions. Often, certain deeply ingrained patterns and relationships act as imperceptible roadblocks, impeding our ability to attract a partner who shares our goals and emotional state. If you are jumping from one unhealthy partner to another, there may be certain relationship pitfalls that are preventing you from attracting a truly healthy partner. It's important to illuminate these unhealthy relationship patterns to facilitate deeper and more fulfilling relationships throughout your romantic journey. (Also read: What are relationship cold plunges? How can they improve a relationship? )
8 Relationship Patterns Blocking Your Path to a Healthy Partner
Erica Turner, Relationship Therapist and Dating Coach shared in her recent Instagram post eight relationship patterns that might be holding you back from attracting a healthy partner.
1. You tolerate partners who cannot fully be what you need. You accept breadcrumbs and do not walk away when you should.
2. Your anxiety and fear around being alone drives you to make relationship decisions from this fear-based place. Being with yourself doesn't yet feel like a secure place to be so you seek security through others.
3. You do not ask for what you need because you're worried you will be seen as "needy", so you date people who do not meet your needs because you have not shared your needs.
4. You accept behaviour that you do not like because you don't want to scare them away, so you settle for less.
5. You show up in your relationships as an inauthentic version of yourself, hiding your thoughts, opinions, and feelings. You are emotionally unavailable too, which continues to foster a relationship that is void of emotional intimacy.
6. You consistently put other people's needs and preferences before your own, which shows the other person that you will tolerate their behaviour.
7. You show up boundaryless. You do not set or uphold external boundaries or you consistently edit or adjust your boundaries to accommodate the other person, at the expense of yourself.
8. You do not hold yourself to any internal boundaries. You do not hold yourself to any internal standard of how you will allow yourself to be treated, so you tolerate emotional absence in the relationship.